Friday, December 16, 2011

Life tips, from the awesome community known as Reddit.

Life Experience

  1. Take every opportunity to travel. Broaden your horizons. See the world. If you're lucky, and aren't digging yourself into student debt, go on foreign-aid jobs during vacation periods. If you're like the rest of us, and need to make money, look into working abroad for a few years when you're done. Overseas experience is a HUGE boost on a job application. Many countries offer "working vacation" visas.
  2. Control your vices. Fun is fun, but too much fun is exactly that: too much. I like a drink. I set aside time and money to partake. It's not a lifelong commitment, but it's something I do to socialize with friends. I do not, however, fall down drunk four days a week. No one ever should. Once a week is plenty.
  3. Milestones come and go. Woohoo! You're xx! Big deal. You said it already: "it doesn't feel much different at all." The same is true with holidays, anniversaries and other celebrations. Too much stock is laid into arbitrary dates. Make every day count. Do things for a reason, not for a season. 
  4. The brands you wear are less important than the total package. If you're concerned about the way you look, it's better to spend time learning about Colour Theory than it is to figure out where you can find a good deal on designer phones/mp3players/computers/pants/shirts/cars. Buy for build quality, not perceived quality. Buy to last.
  5. "Be the change you want to see in the world." Gandhi was a wise man, and this is probably the most important thing he ever said. No matter what you want from the world: be the exemplar rather than the fool crying for change. Lead by example, and preach from that example, but do not become the hypocrite who strives for a green planet while trashing his own house.
  6. Don't drink and drive...ever!
  7. Don't sit in the passenger's seat with people who claim they drink and drive all the time and it's fine!     
  8. Save up a bunch of money, say "fuck it" to everything and go travel.
  9. When you are single you will think up reasons to not take that trip round the world or not start your own business or ask that special someone out on a date. On further inspection, with the benefit of hindsight, it will be clear that actually you were just scared. As you progress through your life you will look back at this time and think "why the hell didn't I just do it? There was no reason not to. And now I can't".
  10. Don't worry about mistakes, they are an important part of life. Try to learn from others mistakes. 
  11. Live now. Save what you can, but not at the expense of experiencing things. Date. Travel. Do the things now that you won't be able to do once you're tied down (house, family, etc.).
  12. Life isn't fair. There is injustice everywhere. Pick the injustice battles you want to fight, get past the rest.
  13. Stash a spare front door key for your house/apartment somewhere safe, preferably near your front door.
  14. You are not your job.
  15. Think of solutions to problems, not the problems themselves.
  16. Remember your dreams for they will be followed by crushing disappointment. Crushing disappointment could make your dreams come true.
  17. If a man comes up to you and tells you you need to fight for your country, tell him -no. Correction: Instead of saying no, ask the man why you must go to war. Use judgement and reasoning to decide if this war is worth dying for.
  18. Do one thing every week that scares you. 
  19. Protect your own interests, follow your own path, and defend your ideals, no one will ever do these things for you. 
  20. Know yourself. Accept yourself. Forgive yourself. Love yourself. Be kind. 
  21. Don't dream it, be it. Don't say "I'd love to" do this that or the other thing, just do it. 
  22. Wear Sunscreen. (Baz Luhrmann) 
  23. Don't talk to the police. If you have to ask why not to do this, do a bit of research. It will probably save your ass more than once in your lifetime.
Activities, School, and Work

  1. Get involved in the things going on around you, even if it's just your schoolwork. Sitting in a dark room using a keyboard to talk to people a million miles away is not a social life. Talk to the people at class, even if it's just about the upcoming test. Join a club or something. Intramural sports are awesome. Varsity are good too if you've got it in you. kerrz
  2. Slow and steady does not mean glacial. You're going to get spread pretty thin in life if you're doing it right. Learn to cut your losses on a project that's not going anywhere rather than wasting five minutes every two months on it. Better to come back to it refreshed.
  3. Always have fun. Work is hard. School is hard. Find something that's fun and keep doing it, no matter what else is going on in your life. Make time for it, or use it as a reward, but keep having fun. When your life becomes all work and no play, you become one of the drones helping to make this world a colder, more boring place. 
  4. Work hard. 
  5. Get shit done. Work to completion. Finish what you start. Do everything within your power to make sure that the important things in life happen on time and with minimal worry. Procrastination is both a valuable stress-relief tool and a dangerous enemy. Use it wisely. 
  6. Learn the value of hard work. If you've never had a job: get one. ESPECIALLY if you don't need it. When I was twenty, this was one of the biggest lessons I had yet to learn. I still haven't learned the whole of it. Learn exactly what a dollar is worth to people. Learn how much it takes to earn one, and learn how much you can buy with one. Learn the lessons that money can't buy you at school. Learn punctuality and teamwork in a real environment. 
  7. Diversify yourself and your skills. Pick up the guitar, learn a martial art now, every year pick (at least) one skill, learn about it, and try to get good at doing it (or at least start doing it). 
  8. DO YOUR FUCKIN HOMEWORK!
  9. Sit the fuck down and study, you can always get drunk after you get your degree.
  10. Get as much education in as you possibly can before you turn 25.
  11. Just because you major in something doesn't mean that you have to do that for your entire career. A major is more of a foundation.
  12.  Don't be afraid to try new things as long as your personal safety isn't at risk 
  13. Learn a second language.
  14. Pursue what you love to do, regardless of how silly you may feel it is.
  15. If you don't love your college major, switch. Even if it's your senior year. Its easy to change while still in school, once you're out it is so hard to get back in! 
  16. Make sure you enjoy what you are doing.
Social Life

  1. Get involved in the things going on around you, even if it's just your schoolwork. Sitting in a dark room using a keyboard to talk to people a million miles away is not a social life. Talk to the people at class, even if it's just about the upcoming test. Join a club or something. Intramural sports are awesome. Varsity are good too if you've got it in you.
  2. Stop asking for advice on the internet. If you NEED advice, the internet is a great place to get diverse viewpoints. You didn't NEED advice today, though. Go outside and play.
  3. If you don't know something look it up. But don't spend all day looking it up.
  4. Volunteer somewhere. Even if it is one hour a week. Do something, check out local tutoring programs. You will be amazed how much you get out of this.
  5. Volunteer some of your time with a worthy cause.
  6. Be groomed. Keep your hair tidy. Wash. Brush your teeth. Wear clean pressed clothes.
  7. You'll regret the things you don't do more than the things you do.
  8. Say yes often. If you don't have a real excuse for not going out, or not going on that hiking trip, just do it
  9. Don't be afraid to say no! This can apply to a lot of situations.
  10. Stay in touch with friends from school and work.
  11. Smoking weed all day is not okay. Getting blackout drunk a few times a week is not okay.
  12. Who you choose as your friends counts more than where you work or how much you earn.
  13. People who get offended when you don't trust them are not trust worthy.
  14. Keep your problems to yourself, normal people don't care and mean people will use them against you.
  15. Strangers don't care as much about you as you think they do.
  16. Friends often care more about you than you give them credit for.
  17. Make sure you are able to spend enjoyable, productive time alone. Enjoy your own company.
  18. Be aware of your surroundings, anticipate and predict the behavior of the people around you. 
  19. Don't use people. And don't "decorate" your life with friends. Friends worth keeping can recognize someone who knows themselves well.
  20. Work on yourself. Fuck the "win friend and influence people" books. There are no tricks to "making friends". The more fascinating you are, the more fascinating people will find you. That means read a book. You don't make friends worth keeping discussing the latest episode of "LOST" around the water cooler.
  21. Buy a good camera and learn how to use it. Document your life. Don't expect to have anything to look back on unless you have something to look back on.
Exercise and Physical Wellness

  1. Exercise really is important. We harp on it all the time, but if you seriously want to improve the way you FEEL about life: go to the gym. I come from a wrestling background, and Dan Gable is quoted as saying "Once you've wrestled, everything else in life is easy." Same thing with working out. If you go to the gym and work yourself out HARD a few times a week, you will come home and everything else will seem to fall into place.
  2. If it's not already too late DO NOT START SMOKING.
  3. If you have already started smoking, QUIT!
  4. Watch your diet. Eat stuff that actually can do you some good. Not just fill you up.
  5. Stay in shape.
  6. Try to have a good diet, eat high fiber foods.
  7. Pick a sport and do it.
  8. Make conscious decisions on giving in to temptations. Nothing wrong with a bit of self-indulgence as long as it is controlled.
  9. Don't have another bagel and lox, tomorrow suddenly you will be fat.
  10. Bicycles are great, don't give them up.
  11. Always brush your teeth.
  12. Floss.
  13. Don't drink pop. It dehydrates you, is just sugar and acid, and is bad for you. Period.
  14. Drop the electric razor. God made men shave so they'll have to look at themselves in the mirror for a few minutes each day. Bleed. And stare at your face. It's the only one you've got.
  15. Careful with any permanent body modification
Money

  1. Never pay for something on a credit card that you could not afford to pay for in cash. Don't spend what you don't have.
  2. Pay off your credit card in full every month.
  3. Save for your retirement NOW. Or anything, now. Putting away a little bit every month will give you something to be very thankful for in a few years.
  4. Figure out the difference between what you want and what you need.
  5. Put 10% of your income away every year until your 50th birthday
  6. Pay in cash whenever possible. ~ Correction: Pay with your credit card, but only when you have cash available. Don't spend what you don't have.
  7. Save money.
  8. Memorize your credit card numbers.
  9. If you let someone borrow money, always make them give you an IOU and charge interest and keep up with the money, especially if it is friends.
  10. Get credit cards, do not use them. See number 11.
  11. Getting good credit history at a younger age will help a lot when you're trying to get a loan. Use those credit cards, but use them if you have the money in your savings account.
  12. Don't buy a house or a new car until after you're married. A house means you're tied down and a car means you're working extra hours to make your payments. Rent and keep your clunker going until you're ready to settle and have the means to do so.
  13. Carry a couple of $20 bills in a hidden pocket of your wallet for emergencies.
  14. Plan for the future.
  15. The company does not love you. You are replaceable
  16. Apartments will steal your deposit.
  17. Never pay full price for anything.
  18. Become as versatile/flexible as possible at your job.
  19. Never buy a new car until you can pay cash for it or have a lot of money to throw around. And buy an American car at your own peril. Learn this now, or American cars will teach you this lesson later. Your call. Finance the entire purchase. Private party sell your old car. Pay it off before the first payment is due.
  20. Get multiple streams of income, even if they are small. Have a side business. Have 3 or 5 of them. Pay your taxes. It's good experience.
  21. Buy quality and buy local. But not so much that you're tied down by your things. Spend a few years with only what you can pack into a small car and be able to leave at a moment's notice. Keep a month's worth of cash handy for when this opportunity comes up.
  22. Avoid debt. In the past that might have been less an issue, now its an imperative. If you are in debt - strive to get out of it.
  23. Always have a backup fund. Be prepared for around 5 months of living off this fund, which includes all necessary things to live and get another job. Fill this fund back up immediately.
  24. Track your spending. You'll be surprised on how much useless things you buy when you look closely at all your purchases. 
Love
  1. If it's meant to be, it'll happen. Don't rush it. It's nice to be a fiercely passionate person in all walks of life, but it's a lot less nice to be the guy who can't think ahead, or the girl who can't see the forest for the trees.
  2. They've all said it already, but it's got some truth to it. Disregard females. Acquire currency. It's nice to have someone who is a close friend. It's nice to have someone who will sleep with you. Do not make either a priority. If you treat people right and respect them, they'll be there in a few years when you're ACTUALLY an adult, and you guys can start making plans. However, you don't want to go out there wasting your time and money on somebody that's going to have giant life decisions to make in a few years, one of which will be "Has it gone as far as it's ever going to go?" Treat the opposite sex well, and feel free to spend time with them, but make it a fair deal, not a one-sided pursuit. Don't waste your time and money on them until you're ready to make a commitment to someone.
  3. Relationships worth having are worth working at. However you are unlikely to be in a relationship worth having until you are at least in your late 20s.
  4. Parents can be annoying, but they are not around forever. You know what's really annoying? When they die and you can't hang out with them any more and find out who they are. Guess what they know stuff too.
  5. When/if you get engaged. Don't get a diamond. We've all been brainwashed in to buying those things and they are the cause of true evil for many in the world.
  6. Be kind to old people. They probably still feel like you do on the inside.
  7. If a woman tells you she is on the pill - DON'T BELIEVE HER. Always take responsibility for your own protection.
  8. Don't marry the first girl you fall in love with.
  9. If you think a girl is too crazy for you, don't think you can calm her down. Run far and fast.
  10. Wear a condom, don't have kids. Always ask "is this ok" and if she doesn't say yes, back away. Don't assume that just because she initiated that's she's sane and mentally stable enough to not call rape.
  11. Do not ever ever ever let anyone take photos/videos of you nude. Any girl/boyfriend today can become a vicious Ex tomorrow.
  12. Don't get married without living with the person for many months first.
  13. Women find you to be a lot more attractive than you think. Just go for it.
  14. Women, don't be afraid to make first contact. This isn't the early 1900's, buy the man a drink.
  15. Nothing will shape your future life more than who you choose to marry. Marry well.
  16. Don't get a serious girlfriend until you're at least 24.
  17. Be with someone who makes you happy, not just because he/she is very attractive.
  18. Never steal a man's girlfriend. If she'll cheat on him, she'll cheat on you.
  19. Do not marry young. Think about the coolest haircut you ever had. Do you want that haircut for the rest of your life? This is a big choice, make sure you marry someone you respect and who respects you and shares your plans. Making a change mid-course is more expensive and painful than you think.
  20. Treat sex like ice cream. It's nice, and you like it, but you wouldn't make life decisions based on it. 
Cooking

  1. Put 1tbsp of butter in a sauce pan on medium-low heat, add 1tbsp flour to the melted butter, mix until you get a doughy consistency, and cook for a minute or two. Add 1cup of milk. Season lightly with pepper, Parmesan, basil. Let it come to a boil, then immediately simmer it. It'll thicken up. You now have homemade B├ęchamel Sauce. Prepare to impress your friends, especially of the opposite sex.
  2. Pasta Alfredo does not contain flour. It does not utilize a roux of any kind. It consists solely of pasta, pasta water, parmesan cheese, and milk/cream.
  3. Take a little butter and add a clove freshly minced garlic to it in a sauce pan. Add a tablespoon or so of cream cheese and then add cream (whipping cream is best, but half and half works as well), simmer until cream cheese is melted in. Add parmesan (good stuff, don't even think of using the powdered stuff), dash of chili powder (a little strange, but is excellent), pepper, a little salt and you have an amazing alfredo. Add pesto to make it a pesto cream sauce.
  4. Pick two or three things and learn to cook them really well. Make them your specialty. Not just alfredo recipies ^^.
  5. Learn how to cook. Look up new recepies and try them out.
  6. Learn to love the taste of healthy foods, ease the bad stuff out of your diet.
  7. Buy one or two really good chefs knives. You don't need an entire set, really, you don't.
  8. Kitchen essentials : beef/chicken broth, garlic, shallots/onions, olive oil, course salt, pepper, tomato paste, red/white wine vinegar, grainy or dijon mustard, soy sauce, sesame oil, red/white wine, flour, butter, eggs, milk, breadcrumbs, dry pasta, rice, chili powder / flakes, sugar, ketchup, ginger....it seems like a long list but realistically it's pretty small. If you have these staples you have a foundation and all you have to do as add protein, veggies and specialty items.

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